When Your Lawyer Calls At Work
Surviving legal landmines while holding it together on the job.
You’re in the middle of a meeting — and your phone lights up.
It’s your lawyer.
Your stomach drops. You excuse yourself, step into the hallway, and suddenly you’re holding back tears (or rage) while trying to sound professional.
If this has happened to you, you’re not alone. Divorce doesn’t pause during business hours. And when legal news lands mid-workday, it can knock the wind out of you. Here’s how to protect your sanity — and your job — when it happens.
Step 1: Pause Before Responding
You don’t owe anyone an instant reaction — not even your lawyer. Let the call go to voicemail or the email sit for a bit. Taking a moment to breathe will almost always serve you better than replying in a flood of adrenaline.
Step 2: Keep a Divorce Folder
Whether it’s a file on your laptop or a physical folder, keep all notes, messages, and documents in one place. When emotions run high, your brain can’t store details accurately — but paper (or screenshots) never forget.
Step 3: Use Simple Scripts
You don’t need the perfect words. Try something like:
“Thanks for the update. I need a little time to process and will follow up later today.”
It’s calm, professional, and buys you space to think.
Step 4: Step Outside - Literally
If your heart is racing, move your body. Walk, stretch, or step outside for air. Physical movement helps your nervous system reset faster than sitting frozen at your desk.
Step 5: Phone a Friend
Don’t carry the emotional fallout alone. Have a go-to friend, coach, or therapist who “gets it.” A quick reality check from someone safe can help you find your footing again.
Remember..
You’re juggling two worlds — professional and personal — both demanding composure. You don’t have to handle it perfectly. You just have to handle it with care.
If you’re tired of managing legal chaos on the fly, get organized before the next surprise hits.
Download The Pre-Divorce Checklist — your step-by-step guide to staying calm, prepared, and in control.
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